Distance Over Tolerance

Toxic patterns have a way of reshaping your values and internal state. Hence, these affect your life in a big way. Whatever comes your way, though, it is crucial to gear towards a peaceful life.

Choosing your peace is a prime responsibility you have for yourself. Be committed to choosing yourself over anyone who destroys your sense of self. Others’ judgments do not count a single cent of the inner calm you decide to give yourself. And you can only do that by distancing yourself from any trigger that causes chaos within you.

Let that sink in.

The Wrong Perspective

Although people will not always celebrate your choices and decisions, let them. The thing about the haters and bashers, the self-righteous, is this one thing they don’t understand. —

DISTANCING yourself from toxic people and situations GIVES YOU PEACE.

No, you are not being bitter. It is acknowledging what serves your values, purpose, and direction. And you are choosing that path.

Let others judge you. Most are obscured from the truth. Many follow a belief bestowed on them, becoming their predisposition. They never questioned it. Not even evaluate its effects. They just accepted it as truth and right. Stressing that it is kinder, “forgive and forget,” they say.

Kinder? But damaging for you?

Forgiveness became their distorted principle in resolving toxic patterns with toxic people. However, they failed to understand the value of forgiveness.

The Right Perspective

You see, forgiveness does not mean reconciliation. You can forgive people without necessarily choosing to have them again in your life. I supposed the more logical approach is,

“Forgive but don’t forget.”

Forgiveness is an opportunity you take. It is when you assess the situation for yourself so that you can bravely move forward. With an open mind, you recognize what happened and everything they did. You also acknowledge how they made you feel. How you struggled to get back up all by yourself. Forgetting all of it would mean not embracing the lessons it brought you.

Peace is healthy. Toxic patterns are not. That is the difference. Thus, we must always choose what is healthy. Staying in a hopeless, one-sided, and probably abusive-toxic cycle is damaging. Tolerance will only make it worse. Eventually, it will make you abandon yourself in the process. And why would you want that?

The most important person is YOU. Not them. Remember that.

Conclusion

Distance is key to protecting yourself from them hurting and damaging you. It also refrains you from sinning and eventually being toxic yourself whenever they trigger you. Toxic people with toxic patterns always provoke others. It is very unhealthy and damaging.